I have been in relationships and I have found out that love does not guarantee the success of a relationship. Love alone cannot help you stick to one person. After all, cheating is not always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, Loving someone does not guarantee not falling in love with any other person.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart, It works out because of emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline. You see, times will come when you will see people that are better than the one you are in a relationship with.
In those times, Love will not help you, Self control, Emotional intelligence and commitment will. No matter how you feel for someone, The person you are committed to ranks first in your life.
You think married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel
funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!. But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. It takes more than Love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.
After then, You will realise that the feelings have dropped, It is now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility, YOURS!. Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, it will sometimes be so bitter but you can always make it work through hard work. Both of You!
I agree with you. But then, compatibility between two lovers is what makes a successful relationship. What do I mean. natural compatibility is what brings about bliss in any union. alot of us jump into a love relationship train just because of the euphoria of being in love without considering other factors.
ReplyDeleteDo we often consider things like honesty, tendency for commitment, generosity, aggression, tendency for being promiscuous, selfishness, caring attitude, or even unromantic nature, miserly attributes, irresponsible nature etc. Before taking a sit in the relationship train? No, we don't. and we often suffer for it at the end of the journey.
Know the personality you are dealing with before considering any romance. How do we know their personality one would ask? It is through their year of birth. So that one can never be deceived by outward appearance.
Some people are natural givers as a result of the year they were born, while others are naturally selfish, no matter what you do or tell them, they will never fully change this, also due their year of birth.
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Actually compatability is the ony way which can help in a relationship
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